Tuesday, September 16, 2008

Are You Helping Yourself or Hurting Yourself When You Network - Audrey Okaneko

Yes, there are certain topics that you shouldn't discuss when networking.

We all talk about networking. We all seem to know that networking has something to do with meeting enough folks to continue to build our referral network, which in turn will continue to build our businesses.

Referrals come when someone you’ve met likes you and believes you can offer the solution to someone else’s problem. So, if the goal in networking is to have someone like us, and possibly offer us a referral, then why do people make the mistake of engaging in conversations that do not promote relationships?

My mother attended a party last week. She met a radio personality who immediately began talking politics with my mother. As often happens, the two did not agree and a strong debate developed. Both parties walked away very unhappy with the other. Neither is going to receive a referral as a result of this meeting.

I personally do not discuss politics with those whose opinions are strongly different than mine. It’s also not a topic I would introduce to a total stranger. No good can come of it.

Another mistake I see folks make is talking negatively about other people. It does not matter if the person is a famous movie star or the neighbor around the corner, when we speak poorly of others, it does not endear others to us.

I am constantly surprised when I meet people and I later find out they know someone that I know. What if I had spoken poorly of this person? What if I had said unkind things?

When I meet new people, I ask about them. I truly want to know about them. My views on politics are not relevant, nor are my views on the folks next door. What is important is my genuine interest in the person I’m speaking to.

If you truly want to network, in an effort to build your referral network, then be careful about the topics and people you choose to talk about.

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Audrey Okaneko has worked at home since 1983. She can be reached at audreyoka@cox.net or visited at www.recipe-barn.com

Monday, September 15, 2008

Menu Monday Plan - September 15


Today, Charles starts training another new assistant manager. We've been through this so many times that I asked him to do it. (burnt out)

Over the weekend, Marcus asked me for some help with his grammar and we re-discovered Tutor.com. This online tutor service is available online through many public libraries, for FREE.

Update on our renewal ceremony: Charles' family isn't attending. I know that he's really bummed about it. We're scaling back abit, like the flowers at the ceremonial dinner.

In the meantime, we only have 27 days left!

Fish, Mixed Greens,

Chicken, Mixed Greens, Whole Wheat Noodles

Pizza - Whole Wheat Crust

Sammy's - Marcus' Favorite Take Out Place

Pork Stir Fry

Sunday, September 14, 2008

Army Wives Online Episodes - Lifetime TV.com


I was busy today catching up on episodes 12 and 13. Are you a fan of Army Wives? Which wife is your favorite?

My favorite Army wife is Roxy. She's strong, trusting and a great friend. You can see that her character is growing up, learning about the Army and how it effects her life, husband and the kids.

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