Saturday, July 30, 2011

Show Us Your Life at Kelly's Korner ~ What is Your Best Parenting Advice

Kiana, 17 years old
Kiana's birthday cake topper
Marcus, 19 years old


When Marcus would respond, "I don't like you."  our responds have always been "That's fine because we must be doing our job right!" 

What we mean by that is that you aren't ever their friends.  You're their parents.  We're here to protect, guide and love them.  That doesn't mean that we don't love having fun and laughing with them.

I also wanted to take the time to thank the Heavenly Father for binging Kiana into our lives.  We enjoyed having her be a part of the family for almost a year.  Charles and I fell in love of her within days of her living with us.  She was the daughter we never had.  And I'm so glad that we still chat from time to time.

Updating My Lip Color With Cover Girl Queen Collection!

I ran out of my lipstick and thought this was good time to check out lip gloss colors.   I've been using lip stick for over 30 years!  And while I thought it has done me well throughout the years I thought this would be a good time to update my lip color and technique.

Now, knowing you're going to update you lip color is one thing but have you been through the cosmetic section of a department store lately?  This store had almost 3 aisles of cosmetic lines! I was so overwhelmed with the variety of lines that Target carries. 

This is Copper Bliss

This is Lush Lavender
I decided on Cover Girl Queen Collection lip gloss.  I purchase Lush Lavender and Copper Bliss!  What do you think?

Thursday, July 28, 2011

Isn't It Funny How Much One Can Enjoy a Required Reading After Graduating From High School?

Our son, Marcus was telling me yesterday that he recently re-read Animal Farm and was now reading 5 People Who Meet in Heaven.

I remember my husband requiring Marcus to read it in the 9th grade.  He did protest but once he started reading it he loved it!

As we were chatting I started thinking about how much I enjoyed reading the All Quiet on the Western Front when I was out of high school.

Is there a book that you loved re-reading after you've graduated?

Guest Blogger: Treasures from Darkness~ Cynthia Lott-Vogel Tips in Marriage for the Spouse

This is Series 3 of Things I've Learned in Suffering from my guest blogger, Treasures from Darkness.  Today's topic is focused on the Spouse of the Chronic Pain Sufferer. 

Let's remember that when we're in pain they're also being affected.  So, I believe that they will find this information very helpful.

I've found Cynthia's experience can provide faith, inspiration and hope to all of us. 

I hope you have enjoyed this series.  I definitely have.  Please feel free to stop by Treasures from Darkness to read her synopsis. 

Thank you Cynthia for your time and generosity.
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For the Spouse:



 It was your choice to marry your spouse...try to hang on to the reasons you were drawn to them initially

 Remember your vows at ALL times. And remember that firstly, you are answerable to God for your vows.

 Understand that, no matter how miserable you are; your spouse is suffering worse. Try to bear that in mind.

 Your spouse is likely doing the best they can do...try not to hold unrealistic expectations.

 Be glad for and enjoy every moment that is GOOD.

 Look for ways to be helpful....when you have the time and strength, look for something special you can do to make them smile.

 Try to be patient when they are in extreme pain and may not be the most cheerful person to be around.

 Remember that they will act in response to how you treat them. Catch flies with honey!

 Try to get them out of the house, or out of their room as often as they are able...everyone needs a change of scenery.

 Remember that, when you come home from work tired and frustrated, this is the only time when your spouse sees you....and may be their only opportunity for conversation or help all day. Try to be patient. But be honest in communicating your needs to them. It's easy for them to only see their needs.

 Remember (in a similar vein) you may be your spouse's whole world...Don't make their world a living hell worse than it already is.

@ 2011 by Cynthia Lott-Vogel   All rights reserved.

Wednesday, July 27, 2011

Charles Started His New Full Time Job This Week!

Great news!  My husband started his new job as a full time bus driver for RTC Transportation this week! 

You should see the big smile on my husband's face when he leaves and comes home from work!  I haven't seen it in a long time. 

Gifts from my husband ~ Flowers and Sock Monkey
When he leaves for work he tells me he loves me and gives me a kiss.  Well, I love you too Big Daddy! 

Wordless Wednesday: Model Model Carmen Wig ~ Back and Side View

Spiral curls in the back
Here's the side view
I love the color and the front.

Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Don't You Just Love This Farmhouse Laundry Room?

If you've been following my blog for awhile you may already know that I love doing laundry.  Yes, I'm the chick that loves the smell of laundry detergent, folding clothes and even ironing!
Farmhouse Laundry Room at Raised in Cotton

When I stopped by The Inspired Room today she was sharing a blog post on of Raised in Cotton's laundry room and I fell in love!

Can you just see yourself, ironing shirts with the door open in the spring?  Okay, maybe you can't but I can.

Guest Blogger: Treasures from Darkness Series 2: Tips for a Marriage When One Partner Is In Pain

Today, I share Series 2 of Guest Blogger, Treasures from Darkness ~ Cynthia Lott Vogel.  Cynthia has been dealing with mental illness, chronic pain and maintaining her faith for many year.  

As many of us that suffer from chronic pain we know that our personal relationship are affected as well. 

I've asked Cynthia to share some points since she's been married during the same time she's been suffering from her conditions.  

I hope that this series will continue to bring comfort, inspiration and open dialogue.  Please feel free to visit Treasures from Darkness.
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Tips for a Marriage when One Partner is in Pain.

First to the sufferer:

-Follow all of the advice listed above....It applies to your relationship with your spouse more than it does to anyone.
-Give your spouse a break.  It isn't their fault that you are in pain...don't take it out on them.
-Allow your spouse to have periods when they are “off-duty”...time just for them.
-If your spouse is unsympathetic, NO amount of whining is going to change that...in fact it will make matters worse.
-Marriage is for better, for worse; in sickness and in health. Your spouse agreed to that, so don't beat yourself up for not being the spouse they married.
-On the other hand, they still have the option of walking...so if they stay, give them appropriate credit for that...EVEN if that's all they do for you--it's still more than a lot of people would do.
-Try to smile sometimes.  Your spouse really needs to see a smile from you – at least once in a while.
-Try to have a sense of humor about your situation. It will take the edge off of many uncomfortable moments.
-Do what you can with the strength you have.  If you have a decent day and are able to vacuum the living room, then do it.  Pull your weight as much as you are able.
-Take your complaints to God, and NOT to your spouse.

@2011 by Cynthia Lott-Vogel    All rights reserved 

Today's Prayer From Joel and Victoria Olsteen

Father in heaven, thank You for delivering me and setting me free. I will declare Your goodness. I will declare Your promises. I will declare Your favor so that I can live the good life You have prepared for me. In Jesus’ Name. Amen.

Monday, July 25, 2011

Guest Blogger: Treasure From Darkness ~ Cynthia Lott Vogel

I'm so proud to have my first guest blogger began with Treasure From Darkness ~ Cynthia Lott Vogel!   Cynthia was first introduce to me at Blog Frog.  When I read her blog posts I visualize a woman who's faith is constant as she deals with mental illness, chronic pain and her marriage.

So,I have asked Cynthia to share the things she has learned over the years.  
 
This will be a 3-part series.  Today, we start with Suffering.  

Please stop by Treasure From Darkness for comfort and inspiration.
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Things I've learned from Suffering:

1)That God is STILL good...all the time.
2)That I'm not the only one suffering-when you are in pain, people begin to reveal their own pain to you...It is humbling and eye-opening.  In fact people will be eager to tell you about their suffering.
3)That, in the moments of the most intense suffering, God is closest, if you know where to look for him.
4)God is only as close as you allow him to be..
5)Bitterness and a closed heart will only increase your hopelessness, anger, and aloneness.
6)That helping others who suffer will take your mind off of your own pain.
7)That NOBODY likes a whiner-this is a particularly hard lesson to learn.
8)That when all you talk about is your illness, people's ears begin to close as you approach. (I've learned this the hard way.
9)Here's a biggie: That everyone’s pain is, to them, the worst pain in the world...and you shouldn't disparage that pain.  They just may not have had the experience of intense pain that you have...but why does that make you any better for having known it?  God gives to each person what they are able to endure.  So to them, their pain is the most they can handle.
That having pain and disability will give you humility if you allow it.
 
@2011 by Cynthia Lott-Vogel  All rights reserved.

Sunday, July 24, 2011

Two Headaches in One Week?! Time For A Change!

Marcus' high school graduation cake topper
Charles had to go to work so my son was my nurse yesterday while I was suffering from another severe migraine this week. 

When I broke down crying he came into my bedroom to comfort me.  I shared with him how overwhelmed I felt.  He always gets nervous when he sees me crying due to me being committed to a mental institution, after a suicide attempt last year.

Marcus isn't a fan of all the medications that I'm now taking.  It seems I've been adding a new medication to the regiment ever few months.

He's also seen me change pain management medications many times in the 11 years.  And then have to go through withdraws from the former meds and suffering from the side effects from the new meds with me.

He reminded me that I should start looking into alternative medicine to help me cope with my severe chronic pain.


I know Marcus is right.  I used to have a chiropractor, massage therapist, chronic pain therapist and acupuncturist when we lived in San Diego. And along with the medications I was taking less pain management medications.

Now that I live in Las Vegas I've been hesitant due the poor medical care environment here.  (scams, reusing needles, not licensed practitioners in the local news)

I should stop putting up walls and just call my health insurance provider for referrals on Monday.

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